When kids struggle with their feelings, it may seem like there’s no way to get through to them or stop negative behaviors. But there are ways to help kids get control of and manage their emotions.
Start by acknowledging how they seem to be feeling. Use phrases like “I see how disappointed you are about coming in second in the science fair.” Don’t argue about whether they should be feeling this way. That usually just escalates the problem.
Once kids are calm, offer to help them figure out a better way to deal with the emotion — one that might help switch their thinking. For example, you could say:
“I know you’re upset about not getting first place and you just want to leave. But you worked hard on your project and people who looked at it seemed impressed. I’m proud of what you did.”
Parents and caregivers: Keep track of when your child gets frustrated and why with
this frustration log
. It can help you find patterns in your child’s behavior.
Educators: Read about
classroom accommodations for ADHD