When kids act out, it can seem like they’re just being defiant. If the rules are clear, why aren’t they following them? When you try to ask about it, kids may say something like “Why are you asking me these stupid questions?”
But there’s a difference between acting out and defiance. When kids are defiant, they know the rules and make a choice not to follow them. When kids act out, they may be flooded with so much emotion that they aren’t fully aware of what they’re doing or why.
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