Why some kids are so forgetful

Quick tips when kids are forgetful

  • Quick tip 1

    Slow down.

    Slow down.

    If you’re frustrated, take a deep breath before you respond or give a reminder. Focus on the concern (“You still have things to put away”), not on how it impacts you (“I’m tired of reminding you”).

We all forget things from time to time. What were the three things I needed to get at the store? 

But some kids seem to forget things all the time, including what they were just asked to do. They might have trouble following directions and remembering lists.

This can be very frustrating — not just for the kids, but for the adults around them. Parents, caregivers, and teachers may feel like they’re constantly repeating themselves and giving reminders. And they may wonder what’s going on.

There are many reasons kids are forgetful, including stress and lack of sleep. Being hungry can also have a big impact. But sometimes when kids have trouble remembering information, they may be struggling with a skill called working memory.

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About the author

About the author

The Understood Team is made up of passionate writers and editors. Many of them have kids who learn and think differently.

Reviewed by

Reviewed by

Elizabeth Harstad, MD, MPH is a developmental-behavioral pediatrician at Boston Children’s Hospital.

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