--- title: How to help your high-schooler handle school cliques description: Teens in high school often spend time with close friends and cliques. Learn how to help your child with learning and thinking differences handle common situations with high school cliques. slug: high-schoolers-cliques author: Lexi Walters Wright reviewer: Donna Volpitta, EdD published: '2019-08-05T15:54:05.207Z' thumbnail: https://cdn-images.understood.org/p0qf7j048i0q/58hB0EdR9sp11C9jepRNXe/1c7faf626e4068e4dddecf4bba248743/G1355060353.png source_url: https://www.understood.org/en/articles/high-schoolers-cliques lang: en --- # How to help your high-schooler handle school cliques Most high school teens have experience being in and around cliques. At this age, these friend groups may mean more to them than family relationships. While this is normal, it doesn’t always make life easy. Kids who learn and think differently may have a hard time navigating cliques. They may have trouble picking up on social cues, like body language. Or they might struggle with staying on topic in conversations or following through on social plans. Any of these challenges can make it hard for teens to fit in. Read on for tips on how to help your teen handle some common situations with friend groups. ## Help your teen find a place to fit in. **The scenario:** Your teen has [trouble with social skills](https://www.understood.org/en/articles/trouble-with-social-skills) and feels like the only high-schooler who doesn’t belong anywhere. **What you can do:** Talk with your teen about their social interactions. Ask them to think about their day. Do they talk with any kids in homeroom? Have they tried making conversation at lunch? Work with your teen on social skills by [practicing some common scenarios](https://www.understood.org/en/articles/social-situations-to-role-play-with-your-high-schooler), like joining an activity. And encourage your teen to try a club or activity at school. ## Show your child how friendships can evolve. **The scenario:** The group your teen has been friends with for a while has joined the debate team. But your child has [trouble with spoken language](https://www.understood.org/en/articles/trouble-making-conversation) and worries that not being part of the team will mean the end of these friendships. **What you can do:** Help your teen think about how friendships can survive when circumstances change. Give examples from your life. “I’ve still got friends I used to run with before I hurt my knee. We don’t go on runs anymore, but we have lunch every month.” Brainstorm ways to stay connected with the group. ## Encourage your teen to draw on interests. **The scenario:** Your teen wants to hang out with the soccer players because they’re the popular kids. But your child doesn’t like playing soccer or know much about it. When your teen joins a group of soccer players hanging out after school, the conversation falls flat. Or worse, the clique excludes your teen. Embarrassed, your teen leaves the group. **What you can do:** Talk about how it’s easier to hang out with people you share interests with. Make a list of [your teen’s strengths](https://www.understood.org/en/articles/types-of-strengths-in-kids) and interests together. Then brainstorm activities that play to these strengths and interests. That way your teen can meet people with shared interests. --- ## Explore related topics and articles - [How to help your middle-schooler handle school cliques](https://www.understood.org/en/articles/how-to-help-middle-schoolers-with-learning-and-thinking-differences-handle-school-cliques) - - For kids in middle school, its very important to fit in and feel liked. - Kids may be comfortable with the idea of social groups by the time they reach middle school. But that doesnt mean they know much about how to deal with them. - Even if your middle-schooler is part of a group of friends, y - [How to help your grade-schooler handle school cliques](https://www.understood.org/en/articles/how-to-help-grade-schoolers-with-learning-thinking-differences-handle-school-cliques) - - As kids grow more independent from their parents, cliques become more important. - Cliques tend to become a big factor in kids lives around fourth grade. - In grade school, kids who form social groups often have a common interest, hobby, or skill. Cliques tend to become a big factor in kids l - [What to do when your tween or teen is lonely](https://www.understood.org/en/articles/how-to-help-your-high-schooler-with-loneliness) - - Some tweens and teens feel less lonely as they find ways to get involved. - Others have a hard time keeping up with social demands. - Encouraging your childs interests can lead to new friendships. 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