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title: How kids can succeed even when they fail
description: 'Kids can still get positive results even when they fail at something. Learn how to help kids see success in failure.  '
slug: how-kids-can-succeed-even-when-they-fail
author: Gail Belsky
reviewer: Andrew Kahn, PsyD
published: '2022-04-06T15:01:07.179Z'
thumbnail: https://cdn-images.understood.org/p0qf7j048i0q/4b6YuKBLJsG9Yczia31pvv/00906258f40564a3a5d379b4e081d6ea/G1136461809__1_.png
source_url: https://www.understood.org/en/articles/how-kids-can-succeed-even-when-they-fail
lang: en
---

# How kids can succeed even when they fail

When kids do poorly on tests, projects, or activities, they can view it as a failure. And if it happens regularly, they can view *themselves* as a failure. That’s especially true of kids with learning differences or ADHD who have frequent setbacks.

But there are ways for kids to feel success even when they fail or something doesn’t go well. It all depends on how they view and respond to a negative result — both at the time and moving forward.

Kids often feel shame when they fail, instead of thinking about what went well and what went wrong. But failing is really an opportunity for growth and improvement. If kids see it that way and take positive steps, they can find positives in their “failure.”

Here are some of the wins that can come from failing at something: 

- Trying new strategies
- Learning about themselves
- Taking risks
- Seeing strengths and challenges
- Self-advocating
- Developing a growth mindset

Kids often need help seeing these positives and understanding how much value they have. 

When the adults in their lives point out and celebrate the positives, it can help change how kids feel about themselves and their potential.

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