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title: How to defend kids from bullies
description: "Find out how to help protect kids from bullies. Get tips for role-playing bullying situations and teaching kids self-advocacy skills.\n"
slug: how-to-defend-kids-from-bullies
author: Ryan Douglass
reviewer: Molly Algermissen, PhD
published: '2019-08-05T15:35:41.082Z'
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source_url: https://www.understood.org/en/articles/how-to-defend-kids-from-bullies
lang: en
---

# How to defend kids from bullies

Kids who learn and think differently are often the target of [bullying](https://www.understood.org/en/articles/the-bullying-problem-what-you-need-to-know). Families and teachers can’t always be there in person to stop it. But there are things you can do to help kids defend themselves. And state laws make schools take action when kids are bullied.

The first step is to make sure kids know what bullying is. Bullying is serious, hurtful behavior that happens more than once. It’s done on purpose by someone with power.

Kids might have trouble knowing that someone is a bully. Bullies can be charismatic or have friends who encourage their mean behavior. Use the word *bullying *when you see it happening, so kids have the words to name it.

Make sure kids know they won’t get in trouble for sharing bullying experiences with you. If they open up, validate their feelings. Say “Bullying is not OK” and “You don’t deserve this.” 

Let kids know there are steps you can take to put a stop to it. Partner with teachers, coaches, or other trusted adults to help protect kids from bullying.

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