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title: Understanding why kids have trouble managing emotions
description: 'Emotional control: Why do kids struggle with managing emotions? Learn what to look for and why kids have trouble keeping emotions in check.'
slug: understanding-your-childs-trouble-managing-emotions
author: Gail Belsky
reviewer: Ellen Braaten, PhD
published: '2020-06-30T16:05:30.377Z'
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source_url: https://www.understood.org/en/articles/understanding-your-childs-trouble-managing-emotions
lang: en
---

# Understanding why kids have trouble managing emotions

It’s not unusual for preschoolers to burst into tears when they “ruin” their drawing. Most 10-year-olds wouldn’t do that, though. They typically have more ability to manage their emotions. 

But some kids struggle with managing emotions even as they get older. They might still have outbursts or get overly upset when something goes wrong. Or slip into a bad mood that goes on and on.

These challenges can sometimes be a matter of maturity. Stress and anxiety can also play a role. But a common cause is trouble with [self-control](https://www.understood.org/en/articles/self-control-what-it-means-for-kids). 

Kids who have a hard time managing emotions don’t only struggle with negative ones. They can get caught up in feelings of joy or anticipation, too. Some get overexcited about social activities or other events.

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