--- title: Why some kids overreact to criticism description: What does it mean when kids can’t deal with criticism? Find out why some kids have trouble learning how to handle criticism, and how to help. slug: why-kids-overreact-to-criticism author: Julie Rawe reviewer: Elizabeth Harstad, MD, MPH published: '2020-05-19T20:49:39.672Z' thumbnail: https://cdn-images.understood.org/p0qf7j048i0q/2LsX37v1suHxxBCQbRO0z2/778d7610020c7bf25da2d07871a39f29/G542720451.jpg source_url: https://www.understood.org/en/articles/why-kids-overreact-to-criticism lang: en --- # Why some kids overreact to criticism Even the most minor comment can seem crushing when kids are trying to build new skills. Imagine you’re a kid picking what clothes to wear. You show someone, and they say, “Maybe not that shirt with those pants.” But all you hear is, “You’re not good at this clothes stuff.” Kids develop at different rates. This includes learning how to handle criticism. Some kids just need more time to learn how to respond to it. But some kids continue to struggle with it, for various reasons. Kids are likely to overreact when they’re hungry or tired, or when they’re trying out a new skill. Kids also tend to overreact when someone questions the choices they make. For example, choices that involve how they look or who they’re friends with. This happens a lot in middle and high school. It’s also common for kids to go through phases of wanting everything to be perfect. If you set out to draw the perfect caterpillar, you might get upset if the person you show it to says, “Oh, I thought it was a balloon.” There’s another reason kids might overreact to criticism. They might have trouble with [self-control](https://www.understood.org/en/articles/self-control-what-it-means-for-kids), social skills, or [managing emotions](https://www.understood.org/en/articles/understanding-your-childs-trouble-managing-emotions). Kids may also be hypersensitive when they’re struggling with a skill. Do they seem to overreact when you comment on something related to reading or writing? If so, that’s something to keep an eye on. Maybe they’re having a hard time with those specific skills. Or they may be frustrated with school in general. Even the mildest criticism can seem harsh if you feel like you can’t do anything right. --- ```json [{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"WebPage","@id":"https://www.understood.org/en/articles/why-kids-overreact-to-criticism#webpage","url":"https://www.understood.org/en/articles/why-kids-overreact-to-criticism","description":"What does it mean when kids can’t deal with criticism? Find out why some kids have trouble learning how to handle criticism, and how to help."},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"BreadcrumbList","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"item":{"@id":"https://www.understood.org/en/articles/why-kids-overreact-to-criticism","name":"Why some kids overreact to criticism"}}]},{"@context":"https://schema.org","@type":"Article","datePublished":"2020-05-19T20:49:39.672Z","description":"What does it mean when kids can’t deal with criticism? Find out why some kids have trouble learning how to handle criticism, and how to help.","headline":"Why some kids overreact to criticism","url":"https://www.understood.org/en/articles/why-kids-overreact-to-criticism","publisher":{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https://www.understood.org/#organization","name":"Understood for All Inc","logo":"https://cdn-images.understood.org/p0qf7j048i0q/307jFAYQevghG8nQMCjh89/ccdbbec895765824db43f6d30b496e83/logo_lockup_navy.jpg"}}] ```