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title: Why some kids have trouble making friends
description: Do you know a child who doesn’t fit in socially or has trouble making friends? Find out why this happens, and how to help kids make friends.
slug: why-some-kids-have-trouble-making-friends
author: Andrew M.I. Lee, JD
reviewer: Mark J. Griffin, PhD
published: '2019-08-05T15:04:33.323Z'
thumbnail: https://cdn-images.understood.org/p0qf7j048i0q/H7Bodm6lB4DykNnw8zGF8/54cf9eb4539f237de5d181ac543632fc/G1340058141_a.png
source_url: https://www.understood.org/en/articles/why-some-kids-have-trouble-making-friends
lang: en
---

# Why some kids have trouble making friends

*Why do some kids not have friends? *This can be a painful question to ask. When kids aren’t invited places or don’t have anyone to hang out with, it can be hard not to wonder — and worry.

Making and keeping friends is a skill. Some kids develop it naturally at a young age, while others need more time. In some cases, kids simply haven’t met anyone they can connect with.

Different challenges can also get in the way. Some kids get too nervous or anxious to talk to others. Some can start a conversation, but they have trouble coming up with things to talk about. Or they might talk about something other kids aren’t interested in, without noticing the other kids tuning out.

When kids struggle with making friends, it might not have anything to do with their personality. It also doesn’t mean that a child isn’t likeable or funny. It may just mean the child needs a hand building social skills.

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