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Mother’s Day Thoughts on Helping Your Family Blossom

My Parent Journey blog post by Lyn Pollard
May 01, 2015

Mother having a one-on-one conversation with her daughter at a park with husband and son in the background

Spring has always been my favorite season. I love watching things come to life, blossom and grow into something uniquely beautiful.

Of course, I love watching my two kids grow and thrive, too—all year round. But as their mom, I find that seeing their struggles can be hard. They both have learning and attention issues that sometimes make it tougher for them to blossom as quickly and fully as they could.

As a parent, it’s easy to start feeling responsible when your child struggles. Even if you know better, you may wonder, Was there something I could have done differently? What if I had read to her more? What if I had taken her to a specialist sooner? Is it my fault that she has these challenges?

As you probably know deep down, the truth is that it’s not your fault. Kids who have learning and attention issues are born with them. No amount of reading to your child, no extra trips to the pediatrician could have changed that reality.

As a mom who’s been on this road for almost eight years, I can tell you that playing the blame game doesn’t help you or your child. It won’t make it easier to deal with challenges or come up with good solutions.

So instead of looking for reasons why your child has issues, focus on her learning strengths and weaknesses. Making sure she gets the help she needs now can make it much easier for her to deal with her challenges throughout her life. And appreciating her unique talents is the surest way to see her truly blossom.

I can tell you from experience, the best thing I ever did for my kids was to stop focusing on my own sense of frustration and limitation about trying to help them. When I began seeking out experts, teachers, tutors and friends for guidance and mentoring, both my kids and I began to thrive.

So, as Mother’s Day approaches, let this be your present to yourself. Put aside any feelings of guilt, worry and fear. Know that your child’s learning and attention issues are no one’s fault. Then, allow yourself and your child the chance to grow and develop more fully. Embrace your family as they are, and look forward to a new season together.

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Portrait of Lyn Pollard

Lyn Pollard is a writer and mom to two kids who learn differently.

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