My step-son has Asperger's. He's extremely smart and does great in school when he applies himself. We've struggled with him getting bad grades off and on. I know the special ed teacher is meeting with him weekly to work on his organizational skills. My fiancé and I try to give him the benefit of the doubt and we only periodically check his grades, once or twice a month. We discovered last week that he had 2 Ds and a F. My step-son did find work that he never turned in for language arts and turned it in which bumped him from a F to a 71.6. We decided to take away his cell phone and electronics. His mother feels he is depressed and needs counseling, which I agree with 100%. She also feels that there is no point in disciplining him until he receives counseling. And she says we are constantly riding him about his grades which is not the case. The Spanish grade disappeared and he remains with a D in math. In our house, it was decided that he could have no electronics until his grade improves to 75%. I feel this is reasonable. However, even though he doesn't have his cell phone at his mom's house, he has cart Blanche to video games and tv. I discovered through one of his apps on his cell phone, that he was up until 2am playing on his PlayStation at his mom's. I know he is going to come here tomorrow and have a full blown meltdown when we tell him that he is still grounded, especially because winter break started two days earlier than planned. I would love any advice.
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Hi @ChristinaP, I love this question. I think every parent deals with this all the time. I know in my house we change the chores and allowance system...
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