By Erica Patino
When you realize your child has learning and attention issues and you see the challenges he faces, your feelings may progress through what’s called the grief cycle. Find out about the stages of this process.
Erica Patino is an online writer and editor who specializes in health and wellness content.
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@EBetharama: We're glad you found this article helpful! You and your husband might also be interested in our section that discusses ways of working together to address your child's learning and attention issues. Good luck!
I found this article very helpful. I had never thought about it in these terms before, but I realize now that this model is one way of understanding why my husband and I seem to be on such different pages about how to live with and manage our son's issues. It seems like maybe instead of going 1-2-3-4-5 through the stages, we both jump around are in different stages at different times. This makes things really difficult when he's in a denial phase (it's no big deal, boys are just like that) and I'm in depression (no other 8-yr-old takes 45 minutes to get dressed!) or he's in anger and I'm in a more accepting place, and then we end up fighting with one another about our approaches to our son rather than solving our family problems.
@Kibbles: We appreciate you sharing your concerns about this piece with us. We're certainly not trying to compare the emotions a parent might experience around a child's learning challenges to the grief that comes with death. Our intention was to give parents a way to understand the process of moving toward accepting their child's issues.
The grief model used here is one that people recognize. It makes it a familiar way to make sense of the emotional stages parents may experience. That said, our editorial team will be looking closely at this piece to address your feedback and make sure we're handling this as sensitively as we can.
Are you kidding me? Seriously? Grief cycle? For mild problems, to boot? You're talking about the grief stages when someone DIES, for Petes sake, and furthermore,not even the serious issues that some of us face, with a child that will never be independent, issues like that. I have ADD, two of my kids do, and it's not the same as a DEATH. Meanwhile, my profoundly disabled son, maybe I had a hard time with it, but even then, HE IS NOT DEAD. you're disgusting, you know that? DISGUSTING. You should be ashamed of this.
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