By Lexi Walters Wright
High-schoolers are constantly encountering new social situations, from the prom to their first job interview. Not following social rules can create challenges. Learn how you can help.
A veteran writer and editor for parenting magazines and websites, Lexi Walters Wright has a master’s degree in library and information science and is proud to serve families at Understood.org.
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My daughter is 16 and suffers from anxiety over the fact that other girls in school threaten her with bodily harm. She was attacked recently at a MAX Station by a teenage girl but was able to fight her off and get away. Oregon has no self defense law so even someone successfully protecting themselves can find themselves charged with a measure 11. She has stopped going to school because her anxiety over having to deal with other girls with a fighting mentality is more than she is able to cope with every day. I have raised her to not lower herself to this level of mentality yet her school is full of kids who believe (along with many of their parents) that fighting is an acceptable solution. It's always over a boy and I really have no idea how to address this issue effectively. Calling police and speaking with school amin has been of no use. In fact, it's only made things worse for her.
@Lorivaun, what a scary situation for any child! And the fact that your daughter suffers from anxiety makes it even more challenging. It may be wise to speak with a medical professional about your daughter’s situation. You can begin with your daughter’s pediatrician. It’s also important that you work with the school counselor or school social worker and building administrator to get your daughter back into school. Keep in mind that each state has laws to protect students - all students deserve to go to school in a non-violent place: http://bit.ly/25cOe9u. There are some ways parents can get involved, too. http://u.org/1MtWIMu. Please consider joining he Understood Community, Lorivaun. It’s a safe, supportive place where parents and experts connect each day. https://u.org/community.
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