By Lexi Walters Wright
Kids with learning and attention issues might have trouble following social rules. Explore how this can play out in middle school and ways to help your child adjust.
A veteran writer and editor for parenting magazines and websites, Lexi Walters Wright has a master’s degree in library and information science and is proud to serve families at Understood.org.
Bob Cunningham, M.A., Ed.M.
Mar 02, 2014
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Should I try to set up play dates for my 10 year old? This entire year he's only been invited to 2 bday parties; I think most, if not all, kids in the classroom were invited. He's never invited over anyone's house or asked to do anything on weekends. Should I try to set something up for him? We tell him to talk to his so-called friends at school and exchange numbers so the parents can make arrangements; he's never come home with any numbers or information.
Hi Capers. Seems like your son might have difficulty picking up on subtle social cues of how the kids in his class arrange get togethers outside of school. At his age, some kids do have well established preferred friends that have developed through shared activities and parent provided opportunities. Even in the cell phone and texting age the majority of the ten year olds I work with are not calling and texting each other. For the most part kids let their parents know who they would like to invite over, and the parents do the follow through. If it is hard for him to identify who he would like to reach out to, ask the teacher who he is drawn to at school, or who shares common interests. He might not only need you to help create the opportunities to hang out with friends after school, but also to suggest some activities that are not as intense as a one on one play date. I do see an increase in weekend play dates , as many kids and parents (continued)
are scheduled with work or activities during the week. Suggest inviting someone out or to your house for pizza, a movie, a trip to the pool. Boys friendships tend to develop around activities, projects, shared interests. It sounds like your son could use your support to jump start making connections outside of school. Best wishes, Trish.
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