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At a Glance: Self-Control Issues and Your Grade-Schooler’s Social Life

By Lexi Walters Wright

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For most kids, peers become extra important partway through grade school. Kids with poor self-control, however, can find it hard to connect with other kids and make friends. Here’s what those challenges might look like.

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At a Glance: Self-Control Issues and Your Grade-Schooler’s Social Life

Do you ever wonder what your child’s peers think of him? If he struggles with self-control, this chart ould give you an idea. The more you know,the easier it will be to help him improve his behavior.

He’s very impulsive!
What it might look like:
For the third time this hour, your child has shouted out an answer to a question his teacher has asked, without raising his hand.

What other kids might think:
Why does he do that? Doesn’t he know how rude that is?

He has trouble controlling his emotions.
What it might look like:
At recess, your child lost at a board game he was playing with friends. He angrily swiped all the pieces off the board and threw the dice on the floor.

What other kids might think:
It’s just a game! He can blow up at anything. It’s scary!

He lacks motor control.
What it might look like:
Your child is sitting at a desk with three classmates. He squirms and fidgets so much he accidentally
knocks over his neighbor’s notebook. Twice.

What other kids might think:
Why can’t he just sit still and leave my stuff alone?
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About the Author

Portrait of Lexi Walters Wright

Lexi Walters Wright is veteran writer and editor who helps parents make more informed choices for their children and for themselves.

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Portrait of Mark Griffin

Mark Griffin, Ph.D., was the founding headmaster of Eagle Hill School, a school for children with specific learning disabilities.

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