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At a Glance: Self-Control Issues and Your Middle-Schooler’s Social Life

By The Understood Team

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Most middle-schoolers are eager to develop their social lives. But for tweens and teens with certain learning and attention issues, poor self-control can make it difficult to make and keep friends. Here’s what those challenges might look like.

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At a Glance: Self-Control Issues and Your Middle-Schooler’s Social Life

Kids with self-control issues can be impulsive and have trouble controlling emotions. Here’s how those challenges can play out.

She’s very impulsive!

What it might look like:
Your child likes a classmate’s new backpack. She tugs at it, saying, “This is nice. Where’d you get it?” The kid snaps, “Don’t pull on it!”

What other kids might think:
Why can’t she chill out? It’s annoying.

She has trouble controlling her emotions.
What it might look like:
Your child is really happy about getting a good grade. She runs up to a friend in the hallway and hugs her. Her friend pushes her off.
What other kids might think:
She overreacts to everything. It’s embarrassing!

She lacks motor control.
What it might look like:
Your child goes over to a classmate’s locker to tell him something. But she stands too close and the classmate says, “You don’t have to be in my face.”

What other kids might think:
Doesn’t she get how she comes across?
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The Understood team is composed of passionate writers, editors and community moderators, many of whom have children with learning and attention issues.

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Reviewed by Jenn Osen-Foss, M.A.T. Mar 18, 2014 Mar 18, 2014

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