At a Glance: 5 Factors of Emotional Intelligence

By Erica Patino

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Emotional intelligence includes being aware of emotions and being able to express and use them in productive ways. It’s key to your child’s social and academic success. Here are five factors that make up emotional intelligence.

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At a Glance: 5 Factors of Emotional Intelligence

Does your child understand his emotions? Can he recognize emotions in others? Take a look at these scenarios to get an idea of your child’s emotional intelligence.

What it is: You child can answer the question, “How do I feel about this?”
Example: Your child hears that a friend made fun of him in science class. Self-awareness helps your child recognize that he feels sad and hurt.

Managing Emotions
What it is: Your child can stop and think, “Given how I feel, how should I react?”
Example: Your child decides what he wants to do—confront, ignore or get mad at the friend. He can think of possible outcomes of each.

What it is: Your child can accomplish a goal despite how he’s feeling: “Regardless of how I feel, I need to…”
Example: Even though your child is nervous about a confrontation, he decides to talk directly to his friend about his hurt feelings.

Recognizing Others’ Emotions (Empathy)
What it is: Your child can say, “I know how you’re feeling.”
Example: Your child talks to the friend, who apologizes for making fun of him. Your child recognizes that his friend feels bad and talks calmly about what happened.

Handling Relationships
What it is: Your child can make decisions about his relationships. He might think to himself, “The best thing for me to do now is…”
Example: Now that your child has talked to his friend, he can decide whether he wants to continue being friends going forward.
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Graphic of 5 factors of emotional intelligence

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Erica Patino is an online writer and editor who specializes in health and wellness content.

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Laura Tagliareni, Ph.D., is a pediatric neuropsychologist in New York City and a clinical instructor at NYU Langone Medical Center.

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