Feeling victimized

At a Glance: Triggers That Can Make Middle-Schoolers Feel Like Victims

By Kate Kelly

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Getting noticed for having a great voice or cool jacket is one thing. But when middle-schoolers have learning and attention issues that make them seem different, they can feel powerless. Here are some scenarios can make kids feel like victims.

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At a Glance: Triggers That Make Middle-Schoolers Feel Like Victims
Middle-schoolers with learning and attention issues might feel excluded or singled out because of their challenges. Here are some common triggers—and ways to help.
Nobody Notices Him
What’s happening: Your child walks into the cafeteria. He knows a few kids at one table but they don’t seem to notice him. He doesn’t know how to approach them.
Your child may feel: Rejected. He thinks nobody else struggles with making friends as much as he does.
What you can do: Assure your child that he’s not the only middle-schooler who feels like he doesn’t fit in. Help him identify one kid who would be most receptive to him. Socializing with that child might lead to an invitation to sit together at lunch.
Getting Pulled Out of Class
What’s happening: Your child goes to resource room when his classmates are all going to math class. Kids ask him why.
Your child may feel: Singled out. He’s the only one in the class who gets pulled out for special services.
What you can do: Help your child recognize his challenges, and understand that he learns differently. That’s something he could tell classmates, too. “I read really slowly so I get extra time to get through tests and other work.”
Teased in Gym Class
What’s happening: Your child dreads going to gym. He’s not good at team sports and a few kids always make fun of him.
Your child may feel: Excluded and picked on. He’s being bullied for something he can’t control.
What you can do: Tell your child you’ll talk to the gym teacher immediately. If that doesn’t help, you’ll go to the guidance counselor or principal.
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Kate Kelly has been writing and editing for more than 20 years, with a focus on parenting.

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