5 Tips for Avoiding Homework Battles With Your Grade-Schooler

By Amanda Morin
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Homework has huge potential to be a sore spot between kids and parents. Before it becomes a hassle in your house, check out these easy-to-remember tips for avoiding homework battles with your grade-schooler.

1. “A” is for “available.”

Your grade-schooler may not be ready to do homework unsupervised. But having you right at the table with him can create too much pressure. Stay nearby and be on hand if he wants you. Having you nearby can help him feel that you’re confident in him, but also that he can reach out if he needs help.

2. “B” is for “breaks.”

All kids, not just kids with learning and thinking differences, can feel overwhelmed at the idea of doing all of their homework straight through. Encourage your child to take a few minutes off between subjects, to build in a snack break or to get up and move around when he starts feeling restless. Taking a little time to regroup and refresh can make his homework hours more productive.

3. “C” is for “consistent” and “calm.”

A consistent homework routine can help you and your child stay calmer and avoid homework battles. Setting up a homework station, even a portable one, can ease the chaos of trying to find a place for your child to work. Having a set time for your child to do homework or a deadline makes it easier for you to be on hand to help if you’re needed.

4. “D” is for “detect” and “defuse.”

Homework battles don’t typically appear out of nowhere. Kids usually get upset and complain about doing homework for a reason. Being able to detect what that reason is can help you defuse battles before they begin.

To figure out what’s upsetting your child, it helps to have a good sense of what his trouble spots are. Then you can address problems specifically: If writing is hard for him and he has a lot of writing homework, help him create a plan of attack. If it’s reading he’s struggling with, consider reading with him.

5. “E” is for “encouragement.”

Grade-schoolers are just learning how to do homework. They can feel discouraged when it’s hard. Encouraging your child means more than just praising him for work well done. It also includes letting him talk through his frustrations and providing him with something to look forward to at the end of his homework session, like an hour of playing video games.

About the Author

About the Author

Amanda Morin 

worked as a classroom teacher and as an early intervention specialist for 10 years. She is the author of The Everything Parent’s Guide to Special Education. Two of her children have learning differences.

Reviewed by

Reviewed by

Ginny Osewalt 

is a dually certified elementary and special education teacher with more than 15 years of experience in general education, inclusion, resource room, and self-contained settings.

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