If your child thinks he’s always right, create a family mantra that “No one is right all the time and that’s OK.” Say this when you make a mistake and encourage all of your family members to use it too. This will help your child see that everyone slips up sometimes.
What you can say
“Wow, Jacob, I really messed up today. I missed my dentist appointment. I was so sure it was next Tuesday! When I got a call from her office this afternoon, I told the receptionist he must have made a mistake. Then I checked my calendar and realized I was the one who was wrong. Oops. I felt so silly.”
“I’ve decided to set up a family mantra for all of us since I’m not the only one who’s wrong occasionally and can’t seem to see it. This is our new mantra: ‘No one is right all the time and that’s OK.’ I missed the appointment and I was wrong, but it’s not the end of the world.”
“Jacob, this might apply to something that happened with you this morning. You were so sure your baseball hat was in your room. But then we found it in the car. You wouldn’t own up that you were wrong even when I showed you exactly where I found it. The mantra works for that too—it might save all of us a lot of time and energy around here.”
Why this will help
It’s often easier for a child with learning and attention issues to see a problem in someone else than see how his own behavior may have been problematic. Making an example of yourself to show what could work is a good way to teach your child appropriate behavior.
It’s also important to connect the strategy to a specific incident since children with learning and attention issues often have a hard time generalizing information and seeing how it applies from one situation to another.