Talk regularly with the teacher about what triggers your child’s frustrations. Share your observations about your child’s strengths and challenges. Work together as a team (parent, child and teacher) to help the three of you anticipate difficult situations and defuse them before frustration builds to a meltdown.
What you can say
“Mrs. Harkins, thanks so much for your time today. The beginning of the school year is hard for everyone, but it’s especially hard for Jacob because he has some learning and attention issues. He easily gets frustrated with his schoolwork.”
“I’ve noticed this tends to happen when he’s concerned about being embarrassed in front of his classmates or when he’s tired, like at the end of the day.”
“I’ve found that making sure he knows how to get started really lowers his frustration. He also does better when he only has one task at a time to work on. Have you noticed this at school?”
“I’m glad you’re introducing the new material one step at a time. And I like your idea of using a timer so he knows he won’t have to keep struggling with an assignment forever. I’ll see if that helps cut down on his frustration with his homework.”
“I’ll let Jacob know that you and I will touch base each week to share tips about what we see is working. We’ll keep reminding him that we’re all on the same team here.”
Why this will help
Sharing strategies that work at home can be very helpful to a teacher and can help your child have a more successful day at school. And when you understand the rules and routines in your child’s classroom, you can reinforce them at home as well.