Help your child develop conflict-resolution skills by asking him “what if” questions about frustrating scenarios. These might include having to wait a long time to play or consistently losing games to another player. Use these questions to help your child come up with solutions to real problems. Amp up the hypotheticals to make it fun.
What you can say
“Jacob, what would you do if I kept picking up the soccer ball instead of kicking it? Would you howl like a monkey and blow steam out of your ears? What do you think would be a better way to get me to start playing by the rules?”
“What would you do if you had to wait a long time on the sidelines before getting to play? Would you run around in circles quacking like a duck? No? Now that we know what not to do, let’s figure out a better plan.”
Why this will help
Coming up with positive ways to encourage your child to work on problem-solving skills will help him feel more confident in his ability to make good decisions on his own. Giving examples of appropriate behaviors and practicing in a safe and non-judgmental setting are often the best ways for kids with learning and attention issues to master these skills.