Use positive reinforcement before, during and after challenging activities or transitions to encourage your child and help ease his concerns. Make a habit each night of highlighting something that went well that day. Let your child know how proud you are of his efforts.
What you can say
“Jacob, you did a super job getting ready for school this morning. You were at the breakfast table ready for school 10 minutes earlier than yesterday. I think that the timer system is helping. Don’t you agree? That was so helpful for all of us and gave you time to enjoy your pancakes. And you still had some time to play with the dog before the bus came. Way to go, Jacob!”
Why this will help
Children with learning and attention issues often have difficulty managing stress, and their fear of failure can make some tasks seem insurmountable. Resilience is crucial, and children’s ability to keep trying and to bounce back from failures will be a huge help throughout all aspects of their lives.
By reminding children of the things they have done successfully, even if those successes simply involved trying hard, parents can help them face a new day with confidence instead of anxiety. These reminders will also increase kids’ willingness to risk trying new things.