Speak with your spouse or partner before you speak with your child about a behavior issue. If you and your partner (or your ex) disagree, find a way to compromise and stick to it. If necessary, ask an outsider to help you find a mutually acceptable approach.
If there are other relatives involved with your child, make sure they’re giving your child feedback that supports your position.
What you can say
“Sofia, your father and I both feel strongly that at this time you should not use the car after dark. We’ll help you come up with another way of getting where you need to go.”
Why this will help
Teens with attention issues need consistency to encourage and reinforce positive changes. Presenting a united front also helps prevent kids from manipulating parents or pitting one against the other.