Read stories with your child about a character who faces frustration and works through it to solve the problem.
Talk about these stories and ask your child lots of questions. For example, what else could the character have done? Can your child think of other responses that might have been better? Or worse? Make some suggestions, and ask your child to think of some too.
What you can say
“Sofia, that was a great story. I love reading together before bed. Arthur the aardvark sure did get frustrated with his sister in that last chapter. How did he let us know he was frustrated? Yes, I agree. Have you ever felt that way?”
“Yes, your little brother can be a pain sometimes. Toddlers tend to have tantrums and it’s frustrating for all of us sometimes. It helped Arthur when he talked to his mom about it, right? It helps Dad and me to talk to each other about your brother’s tantrums. Talking helps with our frustration so we can deal with him better. What do you think might help you when you get frustrated with something?”
Why this will help
Kids love being read to, and there are plenty of children’s stories that deal with frustration. Reading them together can help your child think about frustration in a calm and objective way.
Kids’ books often include a positive example of how to deal with things like frustration. Discussing these stories will give you a chance to relate the characters’ experiences to issues your child may be struggling with in her own life.