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Take a break.

What you can do

When your child starts to get frustrated, give her a chance to take a break from that particular task. But when you make this offer, be clear that she’ll have to complete the task after the break. Do a fun or physical activity so your child will return to the task feeling refreshed.

What you can say

“Sofia, that math homework is really tough tonight and seems to be getting under your skin. Why don’t we take a short break and you can go jump on the trampoline for 10 minutes? I’ll fix us a snack while you’re playing. Then we can look at the rest of the math problems together.”

“They’re very similar to the ones you did last night. But I can see that having all 20 examples on one page is really kind of overwhelming. It would be for me too, so I’m going to divide them up for you into four groups of five. I’ll set the timer by the trampoline and when it goes off, you can join me in the kitchen. You’ll be ready to do the first batch of math problems after your break.”

Why this will help

Stepping away from a task can create some emotional distance from the frustration. Physical activity can give your child a healthy way to blow off steam. It will also recharge her brain and give her the energy she needs to complete the task.

Validating the cause of her frustration is important. But providing an outlet for it will help her power through her emotions and reach a positive conclusion.

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