Help your child understand that everyone faces obstacles at some point. What’s important is to keep trying. Develop and use a family slogan about stick-to-itiveness. Ask all family members to repeat the slogan at home when a task is difficult, frustrating or otherwise unpleasant.
Share the slogan with your child’s teacher or daycare provider so that your child will encounter consistency between home, school and other activities.
What you can say
“Jacob, do you remember The Little Engine That Could? Do you remember what the little blue engine kept saying as it was climbing up the hill? ‘I think I can, I think I can, I think I can.’ Saying that over and over again helped the little engine pull that heavy train up the hill.”
That’s why every time anyone in our family faces a difficult task, we say ‘I think I can.’ This seems to help us get through it. Let’s try saying ‘I think I can’ today while you’re getting ready in the morning. We’ll see if that helps you finish, OK?”
Why this will help
Using a family slogan will show your child that everyone encounters difficulties. Everyone feels frustrated or fearful at some point and needs to keep trying. Using the slogan at home will also help your child become more comfortable saying it to himself at school and other places.