Help your child feel less awkward in group settings by starting small. Provide opportunities to immerse her in small groups. Then increase the size of the group as her comfort level grows. Pick activities your child is likely to enjoy.
Keep in mind that children with learning and attention issues often prefer being with one child at a time. They may become overwhelmed by the give-and-take of conversation required to successfully join in group activities. That’s why it’s a good idea to start out planning fun activities at your home where you can control the fit of the group and the choice of activity.
What you can say
“Sofia, you seem to have a great time with a number of girls in your class. But I’m noticing that you seem to prefer to get together with them one at a time. That’s great. But sometimes there are activities these girls participate in together that I’m sure you’d enjoy if you felt more comfortable being part of a group.”
“How about we start a cooking club on Saturdays for a few weeks here at the house? You love to bake, and I noticed several of your friends enjoy that activity too. We could start by inviting a few of the girls for this Saturday and see if it’s a hit.”
“We could add a few more girls if it seems to take off. What do you think? Let’s make a list of your girlfriends who might enjoy this and pick three to start with, OK?”
Why this will help
Group conversations can be daunting. But you can help your child get better at it by providing small-group activities that are focused on your child’s interests and strengths.
Doing this at home can help you control the environment and foster a successful experience. Over time, you can expand on these successful interactions by slowly adding to the size of the group.