At a glance
The holiday traditions you grew up with may not work for your child with learning and thinking differences.
Tweaking family traditions can help make them fun and meaningful for your child.
Family traditions work best when they include everyone and give each person something they can do well and enjoy.
Family traditions can add a lot of joy and meaning to the holidays. But some activities may not work for kids who learn and think differently.
If your child has challenges, for instance, taking pictures with Santa might be stressful. A child with might find it hard to sit through the holiday concert.
It can be disappointing when your traditions aren’t a good fit for your child. But you may not have to give up the traditions entirely. See if you can reinvent them so they work well for the entire family.
How can you make the experience something your child looks forward to year after year? Here are some questions to ask:
- What activities might build on your child’s strengths and interests?
- Are there activities you should avoid that might draw attention to your child’s challenges?
- What pieces of this tradition matter most? What changes can you make while still preserving them?
- Ask your child, “What do you like about this tradition? What isn’t working for you? What might make it better?”
Simple swaps to reinvent holiday traditions
Making a few changes to your holiday activities can make all the difference. Here are examples of tweaks to commonly stressful holiday activities for kids with learning and thinking differences:
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Hosting a latke-making or cookie-decorating party
Taking turns reading a holiday story
Taking a driving tour of holiday light displays
Volunteering to prepare meals at a local food shelter
Looking for more ways to help your child enjoy the holidays? Listen to an episode of our In It podcast to get practical tips for dealing with holiday challenges. And learn how one mom simplified their family’s gift-giving strategy to make their holiday less chaotic.
When creating new traditions, avoid activities that may point out your child’s challenges.
You can create new traditions that continue the spirit of the old ones.
When you’re creating a holiday tradition, consider the values you want to impart to your child.