8 Tips to Help Middle-Schoolers Cope With Test Anxiety

By Lexi Walters Wright
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Once your child reaches middle school, she’ll take more tests in more subjects than ever before. Kids with learning and thinking differences who’ve done poorly on tests in the past may have difficulty quieting the voice that says, “I’m going to fail again!” Use these tips to help your child reduce test anxiety.

1. Ask your child what’s making her feel anxious.

Talk with your child about her concerns and try to find out her specific worries. They may have to do with the particular subject area or the format of the test, for instance.

Knowing what’s making her anxious can help you talk about specific strategies or accommodations that might help. That alone may offer her some relief. As you talk, however, try not to let her anxiety make you anxious. If you can stay calm, that may help your child feel calmer.

2. Reduce anxiety through practice tests.

If a teacher is willing to offer practice tests, encourage your child to take them. If not, review her previous quizzes and tests, and go over the formats together. Discuss what your child finds confusing about a format and what might make it clearer for her.

Doing a practice test can also let your child learn how to pace herself during the actual test. Feeling anxious can make some kids race through. Help her keep track of how long it takes to get through the test leaving enough time to think about and answer each question and review the answers.

3. Avoid sudden panic by creating a schedule.

It can be stressful for your child—and you—to suddenly realize there’s an exam the next day. By knowing when each test or quiz is scheduled, you can help your middle-schooler get ready in an organized way.

At the start of each month or marking period, ask your child to find out from her teachers the dates of quizzes and tests. Then mark the dates on a monthly calendar. Keep track together when each quiz or test is coming up.

4. Guide her to prepare for tests calmly over time.

Trying to cram for a test is sure to increase your child’s anxiety. Instead, prepare for each test by adding test prep time into her daily study time. Use her calendar of quiz and test dates to plan. As a test date draws closer, add more prep time each day.

Also, have your child find out which tests or exams may count toward more of her overall grade. For those important exams (like unit tests), encourage her to try to increase her study efforts.

5. Help her feel confident that her study notes are accurate.

If your child struggles with note-taking skills, she may worry about whether her class notes are correct. Suggest ideas to help her feel confident about materials she uses to study for tests.

Some teachers may be willing to provide a set of notes or review your child’s class notes for accuracy. That may be especially true if the subject or task is related to your child’s learning and thinking difference. Another option is for your child to meet with a trusted study buddy to compare notes.

6. Reassure her that test accommodations are in place.

If your middle-schooler has an IEP or a 504 plan that includes testing accommodations, check with the teacher before the exam. Make sure everything is in place for your child.

Then tell your child details that can help her relax. For example, knowing who will read the test to her may be one less reason for her to be nervous. Or knowing that she’ll be able to take short breaks to leave the room and walk around might make her less stressed.

7. Acknowledge her feelings and efforts.

As a test approaches, don’t ignore or dismiss any feelings that she shares. Instead, focus on what you’re seeing. “I know this unit was trickier than the last one. But you’re putting in more study hours. You’ll be better prepared than last time.”

Also, praise your child when she makes an extra effort to study. “I know you’d rather be at the movies, but I’m proud of you for staying home to go over your notes.” Explain that no matter what the test result is, she did a good job getting ready.

8. Tell your child that setbacks happen—and it’s OK.

For some kids with learning and thinking differences, studying doesn’t always lead to success on a test. And that can feel frustrating. If your child studies but still does poorly, explain that it’s a good time to consider what might improve things next time.

Then come up with an action plan. “I know you feel disappointed by how you did on that health test. You studied so hard. Should we get your IEP team together? We can see if we can find some strategies and accommodations that might help you do better.”

About the Author

About the Author

Lexi Walters Wright 

is the former Community Manager at Understood (u.org/community). As a writer and editor, she helps parents make more informed choices for their children and for themselves.

Reviewed by

Reviewed by

Rayma Griffin, MEd 

has spent 40 years working with children with learning and thinking differences in the classroom and as an administrator.

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