12 Signs It’s Time to Talk With Your Child’s Teacher

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At a Glance

  • You can ask to meet or talk with the teacher any time.

  • If your child shows signs of struggling, let the teacher know.

  • Signs could include not wanting to go to school or suddenly behaving differently.

It can be hard to know when to reach out to teachers. If your child is struggling with something, you may wonder if the challenges are “serious enough” to bring up. Should you take up the teacher’s time now or wait until parent-teacher conferences? And how often is too often to contact the teacher?

Teachers can be great sources of information and advice. They can shed light on what’s happening in the classroom and give you a sense of your child’s strengths and weaknesses.

If you have any questions or concerns about your child, you can ask to meet or talk at any time. But here are 12 signs that it’s time to reach out.

  1. You see your child is struggling with reading, math, writing, and other areas of learning.

  2. Your child seems to have trouble with focus or self-control.

  3. You see your child has trouble doing things other kids seem to do easily.

  4. Your child is suddenly behaving differently.

  5. Your child’s grades or test scores are slipping.

  6. Your child doesn’t seem motivated or confident.

  7. Your child doesn’t want to go to school.

  8. Your child often gets angry or frustrated.

  9. You get frequent calls from the school nurse that your child isn’t feeling well.

  10. Your child isn’t catching up, even with extra support at school.

  11. Your child has a hard time finishing homework.

  12. You think other kids are bullying your child or that your child is bullying other kids.

The more you and the teacher work together, the better it is for everyone—especially your child. Help the teacher get to know your child with this 3×3 card. And get tips for building a strong relationship with your child’s teacher.

Key Takeaways

  • Talk to the teacher if you suspect bullying.

  • The teacher can offer insights about what’s happening at school.

  • The more you work with your child’s teacher, the better it will be for your child.

About the Author

About the Author

The Understood Team 

is made up of passionate writers, editors, and community moderators. Many of them learn and think differently, or have kids who do.

Reviewed by

Reviewed by

Rayma Griffin, MEd 

has spent 40 years working with children with learning and thinking differences in the classroom and as an administrator.

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