Quick tips to help kids gain self-control
- Quick tip 1Give a heads-up.Give a heads-up.
Let kids know what to expect in a situation — and what’s expected of them. For example: “My friend and her son are coming to visit. You might need to let him play your video games, so put away any that are special.”
When grade-schoolers struggle with self-control, they may need extra help learning to control emotions and impulses.
Some kids react badly when they don’t know what to expect in a situation — or what’s expected of them. Fill kids in ahead of time if an activity might be boring or unpleasant, or if it could take a long time.
It’s important to praise kids’ efforts, too. When you see kids practicing self-control, acknowledge it out loud: ”I love how you waited your turn to talk.” This kind of positive reinforcement helps them feel proud that they can control their behavior.
There are also lots of free and low-costs apps to help young kids build self-control skills, like waiting and managing emotions.
Keep in mind that self-control doesn’t come naturally to all grade-schoolers. But by helping them learn to keep their behavior in check, you make it easier for them to make and keep friends and handle feelings. And that can improve self-esteem in the long run.
About the author
About the author
Lexi Walters Wright is the former community manager at Understood. As a writer and editor, she helps parents make more informed choices for their children and for themselves.
Mark J. Griffin, PhD has been a professional in the field of learning disabilities for over 45 years. He was the founding headmaster of Eagle Hill School.