Child can’t wind down at night? Why some kids struggle to go to sleep
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By Amanda Morin
Expert reviewed by Stephanie Moulton Sarkis, PhD, NCC, DCMHS, LMHC
Quick tips to help kids wind down at night
- Quick tip 1End screen time an hour before bed.End screen time an hour before bed.
Work toward a goal of turning off electronics an hour before bedtime. This can help kids’ brains wind down more easily. Start by shutting off electronics 15 minutes before bed. Then try 30 minutes, working your way up to an hour.
- Quick tip 2Listen to a bedtime podcast.Listen to a bedtime podcast.
It’s hard to fall asleep when you’re worried about falling asleep. Instead of turning off the light and focusing on the thoughts racing in your head, look for boring podcasts that are just interesting enough to help kids relax and drift off to sleep.
- Quick tip 3Practice deep breathing.Practice deep breathing.
Use meditation apps for kids to help “quiet the mind.” Doing mindfulness exercises before bed — or even taking a few deep breaths — can help kids wind down at night.
- Quick tip 4Exercise daily.Exercise daily.
Doing yoga, playing sports, or even walking can help kids sleep better at night. If possible, try to slow things down about three hours before bedtime.
- Quick tip 5Avoid caffeine late in the day.Avoid caffeine late in the day.
Caffeine and other stimulants can heighten anxiety and make it hard to go to sleep. Steer clear of soda, coffee drinks, and energy drinks long before bedtime.
Lots of kids have trouble winding down at night from time to time. But bedtime can be a nightly struggle for some families. Why is it so hard for some kids to relax and drift off to sleep?
Trouble winding down can be related to worry and anxiety. It can also be related to fun stuff. Some kids get so wrapped up in what they’re doing that they have trouble switching gears at bedtime. Others don’t want to miss out on something cool that’s happening after they’re supposed to be asleep.
Here are other reasons kids may have trouble winding down:
Not having the music, stuffed animal, or person they “need” to fall asleep (you may hear this called sleep association)
Being afraid of the dark, of having nightmares, or of other nighttime-related things
Getting stuck on thoughts and problems
Going through big changes at home, like a new baby or the death of a family member
Having high levels of energy, or hyperactivity
Changes in routine can also throw off kids’ sleep schedules. For example, sleeping later in the morning can make it harder to wind down at night.
Dive deeper
Upsetting news and events
Stress and anxiety make it harder to get settled and fall asleep. Worrisome news, whether it’s something in their family or something they saw on the news, can keep kids from sleeping well. Heightened awareness of racial injustice can also add to kids’ anxiety and stress.
Over time, kids who struggle with sleep might start to worry well before bedtime that they’re not going to fall asleep. That worry can make them restless, which makes it even harder to wind down.
When kids are anxious, you may notice that they:
Lie awake alone
Keep popping out of bed to announce “I’m still awake”
Worry during the day, too, and about life in general
Learn more about signs of anxiety in young kids and in tweens and teens.
Hyperactivity and sleep
Hyperactivity is one of the signs of ADHD. Kids with ADHD are often easily distracted, too, which can make it hard to settle down at night. It can take them a while to “shut off their brain” and get to sleep.
Lack of sleep can also make it harder to concentrate the next day.
Learn more about how ADHD can affect sleep.
How to help kids adjust their sleep schedules
Some kids are night owls. Their bedtime comes before their brains are ready to wind down. They may struggle with what’s called “delayed sleep.” This means they’re often still awake for up to an hour after going to bed.
Start by meeting them where they are. Set their bedtime for when they’ve been naturally falling asleep. Then help make small changes that slowly push bedtime up earlier.
Learn how to adjust sleep schedules for grade-schoolers and for middle- and high-schoolers.