Having a child turn 3 years old is a big milestone in itself. Suddenly, your toddler is a preschooler! It can be hard not to expect a sudden change in abilities, too. After all, if kids are now preschoolers, shouldn’t they also be preschool-ready?
But kids develop at different rates. Turning 3 doesn’t mean your child is going to gain all the preschool skills right away.
Check out these developmental milestones to get an idea of how skills typically develop by the end of your child’s third year.
This year, kids really work hard to refine the motor skills they developed as 2-year-olds. They start doing some new things, too, especially with fine motor skills (small muscle movement).
Most 3-year-olds learn to do things like these by the time they’re 4:
Run and walk without tripping over own feet
Jump, hop, and stand on one foot
Walk backwards and climb stairs one foot after the other
Kick and throw a small ball
Catch a big ball (most of the time)
Start pedaling a tricycle or bike
Draw a circle with a crayon, pencil, or marker
Play with toys that have small moving parts and/or buttons
Turn the pages of a book one at a time
Build with Mega Bloks and create towers of six or more blocks
Work door handles and open twist-on bottle tops
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This year, kids start thinking about the world in new ways. You may see some creative approaches to tackling tasks and activities. By the end of this year, kids typically can:
Name the eight colors in a crayon box (red, yellow, blue, green, orange, purple, brown, black)
Recite numbers to 10 and start counting groups of things
Start understanding time in terms of morning, night, and days of the week
Remember and retell favorite stories
Understand and talk about things that are the “same” and “different”
Follow simple three-step directions (“Brush your teeth, wash your face, and put on your pajamas.”)
At-home connection: Ask for their attention. Use this and other quick tips to help kids follow directions.
Three-year-olds have a lot to say. They also understand more of what you say—even though they may not always follow your directions. Kids this age typically can:
Use the basic rules of grammar, but make mistakes with words that don’t follow the rules, like saying “mouses” instead of “mice”
Speak well enough that most strangers understand what they’re saying
Use five or six words in a sentence and have a two- to three-sentence conversation
Tell you their name, the name of at least one friend, and the names of most common objects
Understand words like in, on, behind, and next
Ask “wh” questions like “Why?” to get more information about things
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Social and Emotional Milestones
At this age, kids show an interesting mix of independence, playfulness, and fearfulness. As they approach age 4, most 3-year-olds do these things:
Be interested—although hesitant—about going new places and trying new things
Start to play with other kids (as opposed to only playing side-by-side)
Start being able to comfort and show concern for an unhappy friend without prompting
Take turns while playing (even if they don’t like to!)
Play “real life” with toys like play kitchens
Start finding simple ways to solve arguments and disagreements
Show (but maybe not name) a variety of emotions beyond happy, sad, and mad
At-home connection: Taking turns taking charge! Help build social-emotional skills by letting your child make the decisions for a night.
All kids develop on their own timetable. If your child is late to do a few of these things, don’t panic. But if by the end of this year, your 3-year-old isn’t able to do many of these, consider talking to the doctor about taking a closer look at your child’s skills.
Take a look forward at developmental milestones for 4-year-olds.