Most kids have a built-in understanding of how close to stand to other people when talking to them. But kids who struggle with
often don’t have that awareness. They may turn off or annoy peers by
standing too close. Here’s how to help.
Let your child feel “too close.”
Have your child stand about 2 feet away from you. Ask if that distance feels comfortable. Then ask your child to slowly walk toward you until it feels uncomfortable. Explain that this is how people feel when others stand too close—except their “personal bubble” is larger.
Generally, 18–24 inches is a good amount of space. Use a prop to make this distance concrete. Take a hula-hoop, for example, and stand in the center. Have your child stand just outside the rim. Then take it away to practice finding the right place to stand. You can also use a tennis racquet or similar-length object to show the proper space between people who are talking.
Have family members (including your child) take turns standing too close or just the right distance when talking to each other. Take videos of these scenes and review them together so your child has a clear idea of what appropriate spacing looks like.
Explain that if someone in a conversation takes a step back, your child should remain in place. The person is signaling that more distance between them would be better. Discuss other social cues your child can look for to see if the other person is uncomfortable.
Practice, practice, practice.
With enough repetition, kids can learn the rules of personal space and more easily call up strategies to keep a proper distance. Give your child a reminder phrase, such as “To be cool, an arm’s length is the rule.”