Most middle schools have sixth, seventh, and eighth graders, which means kids may be as young as 11 or as old as 15 during their years there. Between those ages, kids grow in different ways and at their own pace. You just have to walk into a middle school to see the huge variation in both physical and emotional maturity.
There are certain skills middle-schoolers are working toward developing by the time high school rolls around. Not sure what to expect in these years? Learn about the developmental milestones you can expect at this age.
As puberty begins, kids are likely to go through some big physical changes. If you’re wondering why you seem to be buying new clothes more often than usual, it’s because growth spurts are common now. And though girls tend to develop earlier than boys, there’s a big difference in physical milestones among individual kids.
Still, most middle-schoolers:
Become a little less coordinated as height and weight change quickly
Start showing uneven development in skills like agility, balance, strength, and flexibility (For example, they may be able to run fast, but not gracefully.)
Need more rest since so much energy is being used for growing
Have a difference between body and brain growth; may be more mature physically than cognitively or emotionally
Get better at
fine motor and
gross motor movements, like those used in team sports
May try to develop strength and endurance because of increased muscle mass (especially boys)
Problem-solving skills and
thinking skills develop a lot at this age. Kids may also start to pay more attention to decision making and to organizing ideas, time, and things.
Start to understand concepts like power and influence
Question things and don’t take everything at face value
Think about how current actions affect the future and may worry about things like climate change and war
Memorize information more easily
Use flexible thinking, like checking work and changing approaches as needed
Begin developing a worldview and a basic set of values
Want to contribute and make their own money
In middle school, language skills typically develop much more quickly than they did the past few years. You might notice that your child can better understand what people communicate—
with or without words.
In middle school, kids often:
Use metaphors, slang, text speak, and other ways of talking
Are interested in having discussions, debates, and arguments (sometimes just for the sake of it)
Start to “get” and pay more attention to
tone of voice, and other
nonverbal language cues
Go through “what if” scenarios and talk through other ways of problem solving
Continue to build grammar knowledge and vocabulary
Start to use writing to describe personal experiences
Social and Emotional Milestones
Middle school is a time of major
social and emotional growth. Your child may struggle to fit in even while looking for ways to be an individual. Don’t be surprised if your opinions seem to matter less or your child doesn’t ask for your advice as often as before—that’s pretty common. It’s not uncommon for middle-schoolers to do these things:
Bow to peer pressure to be like others
Have experiences with
Be sensitive to other people’s opinions and reactions, and think the whole world is watching them
Develop a sense of pride in accomplishments and awareness of their challenges
Keep secrets (often just having secrets is more important than the secret they’re keeping)
Have a better awareness of
what’s appropriate to say in conversation
Are introspective and moody, and need more privacy
May test out new clothing styles and try on “personalities” while figuring out where/how to fit in
Keep in mind that kids develop at different paces and this is particularly true of middle-schoolers. But if your child isn’t meeting a number of these milestones or is struggling with school or friendships, talk to your child’s teachers to get their perspective. It can help you discover possible trouble spots and talk through next steps.