Kids who misinterpret social cues or miss them altogether might have trouble making friends. Your child’s teacher could be a valuable asset on this front. Here are ways the teacher can help.
One way the teacher can help increase your child’s social standing is simply by showing enjoyment in being around your child. That doesn’t mean treating your child as the class “pet.” Instead, the teacher can do things like laugh and chat with your child in front of others.
2. Give your child responsibilities.
The teacher can give your child leadership opportunities and coveted responsibilities. If the kids are always vying for the opportunity to hand out snacks on Fridays, you could ask the teacher to put your child in charge of this. Your child could pick a few kids to help.
3. Use sharing activities.
Teachers can provide opportunities for kids to discuss their interests and opinions in class with sharing activities. For example: “Turn and tell your neighbor two things you liked about the main character” or “Find someone else in the class who would’ve been willing to move west during the gold rush.”
4. Pair kids up strategically.
The teacher can foster friendships with study groups and buddy systems, pairing your child with another student who has similar interests (rather than pairing kids by academic skills).
5. Create a social skills group.
Some teachers are trained in social skills and will lead “lunch bunches.” These lunchtime sessions are informal chats with a small group of students about social issues. A social worker or a guidance counselor might lead these discussions, too. The chats can help children practice responding to things like feeling isolated during an activity or being bullied.
6. Accentuate the positive.
A child who has a hard time following rules can sometimes become an outsider if there are group consequences when one person breaks a rule. Teachers can reward behaviors they’d like to see more of or those that foster healthy communities in the classroom. This rewards system shows students that appropriate behavior is recognized and encouraged.
7. Establish a classroom culture.
Creating goals for how the classroom will feel and function is key to helping all the students “belong.” Setting protocols for when things don’t go as planned for the group or between individuals will help build a community and provide a common language for students to hold one another accountable and support each other. A strong classroom community allows for individual differences and celebrates what makes each kid unique.