Making & keeping friends

At a Glance: 4 Skills for Making Friends

By Lexi Walters Wright

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To succeed in math or reading your child needs specific skills. The same goes for connecting with other kids and making friends. Here are the four types of skills needed to make friends.

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At a Glance: 4 Skills for Making Friends

The benefits of social success can be huge. It can build self-esteem and lead to success in other areas. Having weak social skills doesn’t mean your child won’t be able to make friends. But she may need your help and support.

Initiate Conversation
Social interaction revolves around talking to other people. Can your child think of appropriate topics to chat about based on the person she’s with and where they are?

Interpret Social Situations
Being able to size up a situation and the people in it is key to knowing how to act. Does your child know when to start or stop talking based on what’s happening around her?

Interact Positively
There’s a positive way to engage with people and a negative way. Is your child able to join a conversation without interrupting or calling negative attention to herself?

Listen to Others
One of the basic social rules is to listen when someone else is speaking. Can your child maintain her focus and follow what someone’s saying from start to finish?
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Graphic of 4 skills for making friends

Once you know the communication skills involved in making friends, you can help your child develop them. Explore Parenting Coach for tips on how to help your child with fitting in.

About the Author

Lexi Walters Wright

Lexi Walters Wright

A veteran writer and editor for parenting magazines and websites, Lexi Walters Wright has a master’s degree in library and information science and is proud to serve families at

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Reviewed by Bob Cunningham, M.A., Ed.M. Jan 26, 2014 Jan 26, 2014

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