Fourth and fifth grade are years of growth in many ways—socially, academically, and physically. You may notice your child’s growth spurts, an increasing need for independence, and a desire to be accepted by peers.
If you’re not sure what to expect at this age, learn more about developmental milestones for 10-year-olds and 11-year-olds. But keep in mind that not all kids develop at the same pace.
Most kids grow steadily, only to speed up by age 11 or 12. As puberty approaches, girls and boys start developing at different rates. Girls tend to have their growth spurt between ages 9 and 11, while boys have theirs between ages 11 and 12. Most kids in fourth and fifth grade:
Have a bigger appetite and need more sleep
May be clumsy because of growth spurts
Use one hand and foot much better than the other (“Right/left dominance” starts at around age 7 and is set around fourth or fifth grade.)
Develop hand-eye coordination quickly (This might be when you notice your child needs glasses.)
Show improvement in handwriting and the ability to use tools
Complain of growing pains or muscle cramps
Coordinate movements (like dribbling and shooting a basketball or martial arts)
May try to develop strength and endurance due to increased muscle mass—especially in boys
Start showing signs of puberty, like hair growth or oily skin; girls may have weight gain or redistribution and boys’ voices may start to change
Kids this age typically start thinking more about abstract ideas and not just about things they can observe. They get better at organizing thoughts and planning, too. Don’t expect your child to be able to sort facts from opinions quite yet, though. That skill is still in process!
Realize that thoughts are private and that people see others differently than they see themselves
Start predicting the consequences of an action and plan accordingly
Can argue more than just one side of an issue
Begin to rely on friends, the news, and social media to get information and form opinions
Develop a better sense of responsibility and help out around the house (For example, kids may look out for younger siblings.)
Start understanding how things are connected (For example, kids may be able to understand the effects of climate change or how the mood of one person in the house can impact everyone else.)
Social and Emotional Milestones
Fourth and fifth graders start to have active social and emotional lives. At this age, kids may be trying hard to find their own talents while also trying to be and look like everyone else.
Are uncertain about puberty and changes to their bodies
Are insecure or have mood swings and struggle with self-esteem (This tends to be more pronounced in girls.)
Test limits and push boundaries (For example, they may try to figure out which rules are negotiable, and which are not.)
Are increasingly independent from family, withdraw more from family activities, and need privacy
Form stronger and more complex friendships
May face strong peer pressure and find it hard to resist if they struggle with self-esteem (Learn how to give praise that boosts your child’s self-esteem.)
Have a deeper understanding of how relationships with others can include more than just common interests
Have a first crush or pretend to have crushes to fit in with peers
Value friends’ opinions; share secrets and inside jokes
Are kind, silly, and curious, but also can be self-involved, moody, and disrespectful
May test out new attitudes, clothing styles, and mannerisms while figuring out where/how to fit in
Ten- and 11-year-olds have varying levels of maturity, physically and emotionally. They may reach milestones earlier or later than expected. But if you have concerns about your child’s development in any of these areas, it’s a good idea to check in with your health care provider. And share your concerns with your child’s teacher, so you can all work together to find ways to support your child.