You may always think of your son or daughter as a child. But in the eyes of the law, people are considered adults when they turn age 18 to 21 (it varies by state). When your child becomes an adult, the rights and responsibilities you had as a parent belong to your child.
What if your child isn’t ready for the responsibilities of managing her own education? Will you have any say? The transition into adulthood has a lot of implications. Here are some of the key points.
The Age of Adulthood Varies by State
The age of majority—the age when an individual is considered an adult—is determined by state law. In most states, the age of majority is 18. But in a few states, it’s sometime between ages 18 and 21.
How Rights Transfer to Your Child With an IEP
At least a year before a student with an Individual Educational Program (IEP) reaches the age of majority, the school is supposed to notify her about which rights will transfer to her. How they tell her is left up to the states.
In most states, when a student turns 18, she assumes all of the educational rights the parents had. This includes taking the main role in developing her IEP. The school now:
The student takes over the right to give—or deny—informed consent to any action the school wants to take. This means that if the school wants to change the student’s services in any way, it needs the student’s permission, not the parent’s.
Keep in mind that a student’s right to special education has an age limit. Eligibility for an IEP ends when she reaches the age of 22, or when she graduates from high school with a regular diploma (whichever comes first). (Earning a Certificate of Attendance doesn’t end your child’s eligibility, but it may have other drawbacks.)
Exceptions to the Age of Majority
Some states have a legal process called “guardianship” to figure out if the student can handle these new responsibilities and rights. If the state finds that the student doesn’t have the capacity to make decisions, it may appoint someone to represent her. This can be the parent or another person. To navigate this process, you may need to consult with an attorney.
Preparing Your Child for Independence
There are things you can do to help ease your child into her adult role.
Help your child develop a good relationship with the IEP team. Beginning in high school, students typically are invited to IEP meetings. They’re expected to play a major part, especially when it comes to transition planning (figuring out what to do after high school). Encourage your child to participate actively in those discussions with the team.
Let your child do the talking. Rather than speaking for your child, let her assume center stage at IEP and other meetings. If she gains experience advocating for herself, it will be easier for her to keep doing so as an adult.
Stay involved. When your child reaches the age of majority, your participation isn’t required. But the school or your child can invite you to attend IEP meetings. After all, you’re deeply knowledgeable about your child’s needs and talents, so your input is valuable.
Learn about independent living skills kids need before moving away from home. Take a look at different paths to success after high school. And explore your child’s future path through the documentary Being You.