Sometimes, there can be a clear pattern when kids say mean or negative things about themselves. If a child says “I’m so dumb” whenever doing math homework, then something might be going on with math or with homework in general.
Other times, it’s not so clear. If a child uses negative self-talk after school, it could be related to school. Or it could be something someone said on social media at the end of the school day.
Here are some questions that can help you look for patterns:
“I’m curious: What makes you say that about yourself?”
“Did something happen during school today that made you feel negative?”
“Does anyone you know feel the same way you do?”
“What would need to change about that issue for you to feel a different way?”
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